As the quarter of a century milestone slowly creeps up on me, I’ve been taking the time to sit back and evaluate the last 25 years.
Sorry. I just had to take a moment to let it sink in that I have been on Earth for nearly 25 years. That’s insane.
We’ve all heard of a mid-life crisis but did you know that young people between the ages of 25 to 35 go through what is called a “quarter-life crisis?” Media company, Entertainment One, conducted a poll in July to coincide with the release of psychological thriller Side Effects, asking 2,000 participants to rate their happiness in addition to other questions.
Money worries plagued just under 40 percent of young Brits with work, lack of sleep and relationship troubles causing stress for the UK’s 20-something year olds.
Shockingly, an increasing number of young people in Britain are seeking professional help to combat the issue of a quarter-life crisis, with a third having undergone therapy and a quarter having been prescribed antidepressants.
Neil Shah, the Director of the Stress Management Society told the Daily Mail that:
The pressures a modern twenty-something faces are very different to their counterparts from 20 or 30 years ago.
He’s not wrong. Growing up in a time where the media glamourises rich and lavish lifestyles not only acts as an escapism most of the time, but makes us yearn for what we see. It hinders the reality of our situation and only when we step back and look around do we realise how far we are from even a hint of glitz.
Only now do I understand why Asian girls get stressed to the core at this age. In addition to achieving personal goals, they also have to satisfy the hopes and wishes of their families too – which isn’t a bad thing. But in some cases it adds another layer of unnecessary stress. Whilst you’re looking for a job in whatever you graduated in, you have whispers of potential guys and the prospect of an impending nuptial simmering away to the point where you can’t ignore it.
I can only imagine the anxiety Asian aunties would get if they realised how much of a blank canvas my life currently is after having it all this time last year. More to the point, imagine my anxiety.
But talking to friends and family, I realised that this “lady of leisure” phase I’m going through is something they would absolutely love to have. No having to deal with nightmare bosses and no relationship drama that leaves you drained. Just you, yourself and the whole wide world.
Did I want it to be just me and the whole wide world? Hell, no. But I’ve realised that this seemingly bleak blank canvas has a few blessings in disguise. Having my relationship end, inevitably prevented me from being trapped with a serial cheater. Having my job come to an end after that removed me from a position that I had outgrown. Are you starting to see my quarter-life crisis now?
But rather than stress about it all, I suppose it’s like having a brand new space to fill with even more amazing ventures and achievements. If your cosy lifestyle is taken away from you, I’m willing to bet that it’s a clear cut sign that now is the time to explore the multitude of options out there.
Only then do you realise that your Quarter-life crisis is in fact your Quarter-life transformation.